What Brings Couples to Therapy?
At the beginning of a new relationship, people focus on similarities and ignore differences, but after awhile, those differences become harder to ignore. Negative experiences from your past start to affect your relationship leading to criticism to get needs met, defensiveness when feeling criticized or turning away instead of engaging. You may have difficulty making important decisions together like whether to have children or how to parent. Eventually, even small topics can explode into an argument or there’s no arguing, but you feel disconnected from each other. You may start living like roommates or consider leaving the relationship.
If either of you is leaning more towards divorce, Discernment counseling may be a better fit for you. Discernment counseling is different from couples therapy because you are not working on the issues in your relationship, but rather trying to decide if the issues in your marriage can be worked out.
What Can You Do About It?
Reseacher and couples therapist John Gottman has found that couples are unhappy for an average of six years before getting help. Don’t wait any longer! Together, we will work to create the relationship you want to have. A relationship that feels loving and supportive. One where you can work out important issues together while valuing and respecting each other in the process. A relationship with trust, passion, and intimacy.
We work with all kinds of couples with various backgrounds and beliefs. We welcome those who are married, unmarried, consensually non-monogamous, straight or LGBTQIA. Our focus is on helping couples with communication, connection, vulnerability, and intimacy in their relationships. We areinterested in helping clients discover the underlying patterns around what they do and how they do it.
Does Insurance Cover Couples Therapy?
Couples therapy is sometimes covered by insurance. To inquire about whether your insurance will pay for couples therapy, call your insurance and ask if the procedure code 90847 (family therapy) with a Z-code of Z-63.0 (problems in relationship) is covered. If the relationship is being negatively affected by one or both partner’s diagnosed mental health disorder, insurance may cover therapy as family therapy. In this case, one person is considered the “identified patient” and treatment must be focused on resolving these symptoms.
